3 Simple Prayers for our Children
We all want what is best for our kids. We want them to be successful, well balanced, and happy. We fret over whether to take them to the doctor or which school to send them to. As a Christian, I think about their future, whether they will make Jesus the Lord of their lives and what type of calling God has for them. All these things can run through our minds in an instant. But how do we release these fears and anxieties? What can we do as parents to “start children off on the way they should go” (Proverbs 22:6)?
First Time Mom
The first time I went to a mom’s bible study after having my twin girls – I was groggy with sleep deprivation. The past 3 months, I’d tried to nurse my girls after they were in Intensive Care for 2 weeks. I tried everything possible and I’d finally decided to give it up. I felt deeply that this was a failure on my part as a mom, along with so many other challenges of becoming a first-time parent.
During these bible studies, I spilled my difficulties out to these women and ended most meetings crying. All the struggles I had were nothing new but something we all go through as parents. We doubt ourselves and we worry about our children and scrutinize every decision we make.
Up till that point, I only myself to take care of, being in command was my comfort zone. Now I was forced into a situation where I was responsible for 2 young girls and not fully in control of everything that was happening to me. I started to realise that I needed to submit my children to God because they are His, to begin with. I needed, to let go, to release my tight hold, and I learned that this was done through prayer.
The Power Of Prayer
Something started to transform in me, I was learning what it really meant to be “grafted” into God’s vine, what it meant to be his branch (John 15:5) and remain dependent on the source of my nourishment – God. I realized in order to bear fruit in my parenting, I needed to come to Him often, daily, and honestly in prayer.
In the book of Ephesians, Paul talks about the armour of God and the resources he equips us with in order to do battle with Satan and sin. To activate this armour, we must “pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people”(Ephesians 6:18).
If we want to protect our children, to see blessings in their lives and true heart transformation then we need to pray specific prayers. Here are 3 simple prayers that we can pray for our Children.
1) Salvation – Pray for salvation and that God is ever-present in their lives.
In our highly individualized culture where we prize shiny Instagrammed lives, it can be easy to present our best selves to the world. I can only imagine it becoming more self-focused by the time my daughters hits adolescence. This vortex will be challenging to swim against – my daughters need to see they’re not the centre of their world but God is.
We can model our relationship with God through prayer. We can’t force anything upon them but we can influence them – helping them not just to “make it” but to become lifelong followers of Christ.
“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and come follow me” Luke 9:23
“How from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus”. 2 Timothy 3:15
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1
2) Protection – Pray for spiritual, emotional and physical protection.
In our struggle between our earthly flesh and God’s perfect way, our relationship with Him is the most important thing. We cannot be blind to the spiritual battle for our kid’s hearts so we pray against Satan’s grip. However, we also don’t want to take a defensive approach. We can do battle and take up an offensive position by helping them to focus on loving God and others.
“Jesus declared “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength” This is the first and greatest commandment and second is like it “Love your neighbour as yourself” Matthew 22:37-40
“I do not pray that You should take them out of the world, but that You should keep them from the evil one.” John 17:15
“Therefore, submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” James 4:7
3) Future – Their future decisions, their friends and their spouse.
As much as we want the best for our children, they will have to make their own decisions in life. Only God can direct their hearts, so we pray that He infiltrates their every decision. We can ask “does prayer influence God? It does not influence His purpose. It does influence His action.” (S.D.Gordon). As we intercede for our children, we surrender their future into God’s care – knowing that God is also committed to their joy.
“My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent. My son, do not walk in the way with them, keep your foot from their path” Proverbs 1:10, 15
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
“One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts.” Psalm 145:4
In God’s Hands
“You can do more than pray after you have prayed, but you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed.” John Bunyan
When I was not nursing, God gave me what I needed at the time: some extra rest, time away with my husband, and an easy transition into the toddler years. This was confirmation to me that God’s plans work out for our good (Romans 8:28). As much as I love my girls, God loves them even more. Internalising that early on has given me the foundational peace I need as I watch my children grow, no doubt there will be joys and lows involved in parenting but I have already prayed about that and trust that God’s perfect purposes will prevail.
Written by Alicia Dougherty
Alicia is from the beautiful state of Colorado. She currently lives in London with her husband and 5 year old twin girls and is part of a Church in Ealing. She loves the outdoors, travelling, crafty things, and helping people with their personal finances.
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